Why I threw out the scale and my turkey this weekend.
I've been speaking to the grown ass women on a mission in my life and I hear that this holiday is going to be different for so many of them. Is that true for you too?
On my quest for full expression this year, I decided again, for the 3rd Gratitude Day holiday, that turkey doesn't make me or my family happy! So, why cook it? It feels so good to be free of that tradition that I really can't explain why it took me so long to abandon. It doesn't matter anymore - I'm free!
"I'm done doing things that don't light me up or make me feel amazing!" Yeah!
You know what else I'm done with? The freaking scale! I mean it! No, really.
This year, after scrolling through more IG and FB pages than I care to admit, I started to judge myself and felt like I totally wasted my time during the pandemic on all the wrong things. I had gained the dreaded "Covid 15" and even scaled down my client load. I was totally triggered when I saw a recent blog on coaches who quadrupled their income during the pandemic! Not me! WTF was I doing?
I forgot that I consciously made the decision to devote extra time with my loved ones who are struggling with severe mental health and mobility issues. But, my inner critic didn't care about my circumstances, it just wanted to judge and make me feel like I had royally failed this year.
I was so frustrated with all the losing then gaining, the weighing and the counting! Finally, I asked myself: "Why do I keep subjecting myself to the torture of the scale every day?" Yes, it became a daily thing - sometimes even twice a day.
Then, I took a deep breath and closed my eyes. It allowed me to create the space for me to choose what I wanted to do next. Guess who appeared? My highest self!
She reminded me of my humanness and all of the work and changes I've been making. She reminded me of James Clear's Atomic Habits and the requirements of true habit change. Change takes time and it's not easy.
"Success is the product of daily habits—not once-in-a-lifetime transformations." James Clear - Atomic Habits
Reconnecting to my essence and Grown Ass Goddess helped me take a necessary assessment of what was in my way of feeling successful? What was in the way of seeing all my efforts and accepting what was without judgment?
The answers flooded in. My intuition spoke to me loud and clear:
1. Fill your tank!
2. Get off social media!
3. Ditch the scale and the food tracking!
4. Get some quality sleep!
5. Get a massage.
6. Fire your health coach!
7. Ride your damn bike!
Once I created the space and quieted the chatter, my intuition spoke up and I listened.
Do you get so busy that you're constantly searching the web for answers first before you check within? Sometimes the answers are obvious but we're not ready to hear them. So, we keep searching for "the answer" and the elusive "clarity" all the while, sinking further away from our intuition.
I'm done swallowing bitter pills! I deserve to feel good and still transform in a way that feels good. Yes, it is possible when I'm in alignment with my true desires and able to release the judgment.
What about you? What is your inner critic saying about your lack of progress? Are you still allowing it to hold you hostage? It's just a matter of time before you quit completely. There is another way. Are you ready to cut those ties to forcing yourself to take the bitter pill? Why not get support from someone who connects with your core vision and desires which invigorate you and fire you up?
It's up to you. Will you keep following the traditions and practices that are meaningless or depleting? Or, will you create a New and Improved Master file on life filled with sweet self-compassion, kindness and outcomes that ignite your soul so you will succeed?
I'm writing this on the eve of Gratitude Day (that's what I'm calling Thanksgiving from now on) and my intention is to remind you of the beautiful gift you have within you called: intuition.
You know what it feels like to tap into it and the peace and confidence it creates.
Why not intentionally carve out the time and space to be alone with your thoughts and feelings this weekend? Perhaps, have a pen and paper to jot down the answers to this question:
How do I want to feel? (list those emotions that resonate and make you happy)
Make a decision of what you will do to feel one of those emotions that you want to feel. I love how I feel while riding my bike. What makes you feel free and alive?
Send me an email at email@example.com and share your decision with me. I dare you to email me right now and let me know when you're planning to make it happen. That alone is an act of accountability and increases the likelihood of you doing it.
P.S. I'm so thankful for you! Cheers to you for all your efforts to rise up each day, no matter what, to serve and change the world! Now, go ahead, do something that makes YOU feel good too. I dare you. You deserve it.
With gratitude and love,